You Are Lovely (Even When You Don’t Feel Like It): A Grace-Filled Letter to the Tired Homemaker
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🎧 Episode: A Letter to the Guilty Homemaker
You wake up and hit the ground running—maybe feeding littles, prepping meals, folding laundry, trying to pray while stirring a pot of spaghetti, or just attempting to breathe in a quiet moment without guilt crawling up your spine. Whether you’re married, single, a mom, or newly navigating your homemaking role—it’s exhausting.
Today’s post is for you, sweet friend.
For the woman going to bed feeling like she didn’t do enough. For the homemaker wondering if she’s making a difference. For the wife questioning if she’s a good one. For the Christian who loves Jesus deeply but can’t shake the overwhelm.
Let’s talk about grace—real, biblical, soul-settling grace.
Feelings vs. Facts: What Are You Building On?
Let’s start here: Your feelings are real. They're allowed. But they are not your foundation.
Feelings come in waves. They rise with hormones, fatigue, or a pile of dishes that just won’t go away. And that’s okay. But if we build our identity on feelings, our days will be as unstable as a home built on sand.
That’s why God gave us facts.
✨ The fact is: You are a child of God.
✨ The fact is: You are forgiven.
✨ The fact is: You are lovely—because Christ in you is lovely.
✨ The fact is: You are doing better than you think.
Write those down if you need to. Speak them out loud. Tape them to your fridge or scribble them in your journal. Let the facts of God's Word be your anchor.
When You Feel Like You’re Failing
Did you forget to make dinner again this week? Is your laundry multiplying like loaves and fishes but not in a holy way?
Here's the truth: If you care enough to feel guilty, you’re already proving your heart is invested. And that means you’re not failing.
Sometimes, the enemy tries to use your compassion as a weapon. But God uses it to call you closer. Every feeling of guilt can become a turning point back to grace. You don’t need to be better to be beloved.
Let me say that again: You don’t need to be better to be beloved.
What You Can Do Right Now
If your heart is heavy, try this little rhythm:
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List Your Feelings. Exhausted. Disappointed. Overwhelmed.
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Match Them With Facts. “I am tired, but I am not alone. I am overwhelmed, but I am covered by grace.”
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Ask the Hard Question. “What lie is the enemy trying to get me to believe today?”
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Cross it out. Write the truth instead. Literally. On paper.
These little grace rhythms can transform your inner life. And I want to help you build more of them into your day-to-day.
Let the Planner Hold Your Hand (Literally)
If you’ve never looked into the Lovely Home Planner, let me tell you—it’s not just a planner. It’s a sanctuary in paper form.
It’s the physical, hold-in-your-hands version of this blog and podcast. Inside, you’ll find:
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Weekly rhythms that help you live with grace, not guilt
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Journaling prompts to sort your feelings from your facts
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Faith-based planning that invites God into your to-do list
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Encouragement sprinkled in to keep your heart soft
Whether you’re trying to build habits, fight overwhelm, or just want to feel like you’re actually doing okay, this planner is your companion.
✨ Take a peek at the Lovely Home Planner →
Want to Go Deeper? Let’s Talk One-on-One
Sometimes you just need someone to look at your life with you and say, "You're not crazy. You're just overwhelmed—and here's a way through."
That’s exactly what happens on a coaching call with me. Together, we:
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Gently untangle your mental and home clutter
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Set up grace-filled rhythms that actually work
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Get to the root of what’s draining you emotionally and spiritually
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And help you remember: you were never meant to carry all this alone
✨ Book your Lovely Rhythms Call Today
You don’t have to keep guessing your way through homemaking, marriage, and faith. Let’s do it together—with purpose and peace.
Final Thought: Even the Thorns Have a Purpose
In the episode, I shared this picture of shepherds surrounding their sheep with thorny hedges—not to hurt them, but to protect them. The prick of the thorn was a gentle nudge: “Come back. Stay close. You’re safest here.”
And don’t we see that same thorny love on the head of our Savior?
Even your hard days—the ones that sting—can bring you closer to your Shepherd.
So, sister, as you stand in your kitchen, look at your messy living room, or crawl into bed with tears in your eyes, remember:
You are not failing.
You are not forgotten.
You are lovely.
And your home is too—because He lives in it.
📝 Listen to the full episode for more grace-filled encouragement
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💌 And just for fun—
Would you rather always have a dog barking in the back of your mind… or bagpipes playing? 😅
Drop your answer in the comments or message me via instagram!
Until next time,
Evelyn 💗
“You are lovely. And so is your home.”